Girlfriend is into martial arts

i've got a question for you guys about martial arts in general. I know very little about it but I've been dating a girl now for a few months who evidently is really into it. She's been keeping it pretty much to herself but I know she goes to the gym a lot and I believe she's pretty advanced.

So here's my question. I find it's bothering me ... and i find I'm now intimidated by her and I think she's senses this. So basically ,... the fact that she's a serious martial artist and I've never been in a fight is making me feel like a pussy LOL.

So I'm thinking of starting in on some training myself but then there's the issue of how many years behind her I'll be ...

anyway ... just struggling with this ... does anyone have any insight on this?


Help!!!

 

Unless she's physically abusing you... that's great that she is learning to defend herself.
It's important that women learn to do so to protect against sexual assaults and other violent crimes.

I wouldn't be intimidated. I'm sure her safety is very important to you and martial arts can help to ensure her safety.

If that's not enough... than maybe you could start studying martial arts together?
Either the same martial art or something else that compliments your particular body type and personality.

Martial arts is not necessarily nor essentially about violence - in fact, it is about defense and discipline.

Why do you have to try to be her? She is your girlfriend - she chose you for you.

Focus on your own strengths and learn all about what she is doing and share what you are doing.
This brings interest into a relationship.

Be you. That's what you are and that is how she likes you.

 

First of all, she is with you because she likes you, which is evidently not a serious martial artist. If she wanted one of those, she'd probably be with one already. She isn't, so relax.

Second, even if you would start today, you wouldn't catch up with her soon, so don't think it will change the situation. In fact, it will only make it worse, because she will feel that you are competing with her, just because you're insecure.

And third... starting Martial Art if your heart isn't really in it is bound to be a fisaster. You'll have to drag yourself to class, have no positive feelings about it, and when your progress is slower than you'd like, you'll get doubly frustrated with your girlfriend.

Just relax a little. This is only a problem because you're making it one. And chances are that this is exactly why she is keeping that side of her life to herself. Chances are she senses that it is freaking you out.

 

Many years ago a girl called me and wanted to meet me. When we met, she asked me if MA can be used for self-defense. She then showed me all the bruise on her leg. She said that her husband beated her up everyday. She signed up my class and stayed there for a year. After she left, her husband started to signed up my class. Later on I found out that it was the wife Who beated up the hushand and not the other way around. When her husband wanted to learn weapon fight, that was the time I started to worry.

 

Either stop trolling or stop feeling so defensive about a girl having more skills than you.

 

Dave,
She chose you because she digs you. It would be no different if she was a weight room fitness rat. Bro, be happy that you got a lady that cares about herself enough to take care of herself. I am the personal trainer for my wife at the gym when she goes. It is cool, no worries.

 

This.

It's rather silly to be so easily emasculated. Women don't want tough guys Mr. Dave Brown. That's a Hollywood contrivance.

 

Stop fretting . Its her thing to train ...

You need to grow a pair and either do MA for yourself or leave her to it ...

Smurf

 

Anyone else click on this thread because it was shortened into "Girlfriend is into..." only to be disapointed when it ended with "martial arts"?

 

I'm in the same boat only she doesn't know she's my girlfriend yet

 

Its her thing not yours. Don't see why this is an issue apart from your ego and concern that she appears stronger than you. Most people who train have partners who don't train.

My girlfriend absolutely has no interest but supports me as its my thing, I was doing it long before she met me, so she takes it as part of me.

Agree that if your hearts not in it you won't get much from training but it might at least give you some insight.

Osu!

Dan93

 

my ex-colleague is in a similar position but he can run faster and would likely be stronger if he ever did any proper weights, since he is quite sporty I don't think it's much of an issue, that she might be able to do more pullups could be though. i would not want to be going out with a pussy, but if it happened they would have something else i liked a lot

 

Yup.

 

Dude, your problem isn't that you can't fight. It's that you're here talking to us about it instead of talking to her.

 

Stop being insecure and go learn to play an instrument instead.

 

This, being unable to fight doesn't effect my attraction to a guy at all. I'd say that's fairly common. Don't try to compete with her for fighting ability, that doesn't lead anywhere good.

Also, playing an instrument is sexy, learn that

 

Isn't it usual to like a guy that doesn't go out and beat people up but can motor when he really needs to?
He's got to be able to fight a little bit surely?
Hell...I like women that can fight a bit.

 

Me too :love:

 

Well, I'd be lying if I said being able to fight wasn't a turn on, but not being able to isn't really a turn off. So long as they aren't a girly man that is, if I wanted a girly man I'd date girls!

 

go lift some weights. i'm really liking Elliot Hulse :love: see StrengthCamp on youtube. i dunno if he does any MA, but looks tough, and yet cute too.