I am not directing this to any particular post/thread or any particular person. But from listening to a serious conversation over the weekend I want to share this here. Do you as a person need to get over yourself, before you ruin friendships or a serious relationship with someone.Are you so self important and egotistical, that you have possibly created some situations that may end up causing you pain and suffering and loss down the road. If you can take a serious look at yourself and come out of yourself it may save you grief and pain in the future. This was a subject someone brought up and this question was directed at someone in particular.Who is in my opinion in need of taking a serious look outside the box. And the individual asking and confronting this person with this meant this as a help, and not a criticism or put down.No tempers flared up and the talk remained friendly but I think we are still considered not as smart or in the know as the high and mighty one we asked this to.
Yes constantly I try to live by this way of looking at things.But self awareness sometimes doesn't come easy to some. And when they fall or lose something they thought they owned it is a bitter wake up call.
Oh of course. All the time I wonder if something I've done or said is right or prudent. The line between hard truths and needless or even incorrect abrasiveness is something I struggle with all the time. I like to think I'm doing the right thing more often than not but I've looked back and felt I either that what I did was misguided and rude or that it was functionally correct but poorly executed more than once. On the other hand, I've many a time wished someone had backed me into a corner and left me with no option but to confront my mistake or misconception rather than play politely around the edges and let me continue in ignorance, so it's hardly a science on either side.
We are individuals. As individuals we have our own opinions. And we know the cliche' about "opinions"
Yes, I have been told that I'm a huge **** (sorry!) on several occasions by my sisters, GF and other friends. The problem is I can be pretty blunt and I make jokes and tease people. The reason is because at my job my coworkers and I are constantly ripping on eachother to make the day go by faster. Unfortunately most people have the hide of a newborn piggy =P. On a serious note, I do realize that I need to learn to bite my tongue because my crude humor can put people off. Even though I'm a pretty friendly guy (besides the teasing).
That depends on circumstances. I've grown apart from some friends because they had such obnoxious friends with 'issues'. Of course they might have thought I was the one with issues. A couple I've mentioned in another thread where one woman glassed another in my local pub. Another was in a relationship with a muso friend but lost it in a Betty style and is in hospital as far as I know. There are others. I haven't stayed in touch when friends have got into relationships and only meet friends as groups, mostly because of my sensitivity to friends of friends, which is a shame
My ex kept telling people that i'm an egomaniac and when i heard about it i was like woman that's like getting ****ed that your jar of peanut butter doesn't have a warning label saying "may contain traces of peanut"
Certain successful pursuits or careers in life are pushed forward and constantly motivated because the individual is a egomaniac and self absorbed.
I totally need to get past myself. Only yesterday my girlfriend and me had a bit of a sensitive conversation about how I close myself off when I'm depressed and don't notice how it might be affecting others around me, such as her feeling pushed away and like her feelings don't matter. I've been told I'm selfish more than a couple of times through the years and yesterday was quite disappointed to find it's still the case :/
