Challenging someone to a fight

I have a relation who is the biggest bona quibus fruimus I've ever known. I wont go into details, but I can pretty much promise you, you'd feel as I do if it were you.


I'd like to get him in the ring, to avoid legal implications and to stay on the right side of the law. If he refuses my challenge, I'll have the satisfaction at least of reminding him on a regular basis that he's a coward.

Wondering if anyone has been in this situation, and if/how they managed to get the person concerned in the ring?

 

Excellent idea! I've had a few instances where someone's tried to bully me and I just didn't take them seriously and laughed at them and said something like "real men fight in the ring. Pussies fight in the streets." Let's be real men, what do you say?

If I were you, tell him his bravado and obnoxious behaviors are to cover his weaknesses and cowardice. you know, he's overcompensating for something perhaps? that's why he's overbearing and displays overcompensating behaviors. Then challenge his manhood and say show us what a real man you are - in a boxing ring. The place where real men and noblemen settle disputes

btw I assume you're a boxer/kickboxer and have some experience? Otherwise it'd be a bad idea.....

Edit: I'm assuming he really is a nasty person and needs to be taught to respect others. Otherwise, you'd be the bully. if he refuses, shake his hand and say "you don't have to like me, but you must respect me as I respect you" Simple.

 

I appreciate the advise Simon.

I'll put this question to you, would your advice still stand if threats were made to elderly or young members of your immediate family?

If I wished to fight back or make a point in such a situation, and in an entirely legal manner, does that make me a bully?

 

That's true. It's illegal to threaten someone. And if he's made threats against elderly etc. police will take it very seriously.

 

I've had about 7 years of training in total. Kung Fu and Tae Kwon Do mainly.

 

Take Simon's advice.

 

Everytime I hear someone say: "I want to challenge him!", I immediately think: "Get older than 12"

 

Yeah, fighting this guy (in or out of the ring) is unlikely to help, and would likely make things worse. (Others have covered this pretty well, so I won't belabor it.)

I would go to the authorities and at least start documenting that this is going on. If its as volatile a situation as you seem to think it is (i.e., your relative might actually attack your family), this will help set the stage for a self defense claim if anyone in your family needs to defend themselves from this person. (I am not a lawyer, this is not legal advice, but having documented history of this would likely make a self-defense scenario quicker/easier to resolve from a legal standpoint.)

I would make sure any children who have been threatened/who you are concerned about are aware that they shouldn't trust this relative. (I.e., make it clear that if he tries to pick them up after school to give them a ride, or anything like that, that they shouldn't.)
I would also talk to any of the elders he has threatened and make sure they are aware of it and that they should contact the authorities if he shows up and is being aggressive. Make sure they are easily able to contact the authorities in situations where this person might try to confront them/attack them. (E.g., make sure they have a cell phone on them when not near a regular phone.)

I agree with others that setting up alarms/cctv/monitoring would be good as well. I personally wouldn't tell the aggressive relative about this setup--while it might deter him, it might also cause him to plan an attack that works around the things you set up.

 

Do people really still challenge people to fights? I thought that kind of thing was limited to school playgrounds.

Sport being the exception for course but that's different.

If someone challenged me to a fight, I'd decline even if I knew I could kick their behind while my arms were tied behind my back. Then if I was a bad man (which I'm not, I hope ) I'd take great satisfaction from knowing that I'd wound someone please enough that they wanted to fight me.

With respect, it sounds to me more like you want to test your martial skills. You can't have much faith in yourself if after 7 years of training our feel you need to test yourself against someone you think darent even accept he challenge.

If this person is making threats, let the police deal with it if he's serious. Then you can take satisfaction from knowing hat you were the bigger person, refusing to sink to his petty primitive level.

 

I'm taking bets on OP being under 17. any takers? I think he's 15.

 

Problem: You WANT to be violent against him, even though it is illegal, and are looking for an excuse to do so legally. You have stated as much in your opening post. Why? What will that accomplish? Is he going to stop being a jerk if you beat him up? If he beats YOU up, then... Well, no comment. Talk to the police, press charges, move on.

 

It's a conspiracy man. The mods occasionally create new accounts and ask stupid questions so we have something to respond to when things get slow.

Also Hillary is funding the clown appearances...

Jet fuel doesn't melt steel beams...

Carrot juice is murder...

 

So true. Plus Trump is planning on nuking Wisconsin which will turn it into a radioactive wasteland of melted cheese. Once he's cut off our cheese supply he'll declare martial law and impose a mandatory groping ordinance.

 

Come on you bunch of killjoys - dishing out a decisive beating to someone for no other reason than self-indulgence happens every day. In fact, i'd even propose that it's the number one reason for most of the beatings that occur, and indeed the number one reason that many people get into martial arts in the first place! Stop being so judgemental and help this guy engineer some non-righteous street justice!

LAW OF THE JUNGLE! WOO!

 

But righteous is so much more satisfying, and please forget the ring. Sprinkle some glass in the back garden, call an ambulance and go.