Bit of a vague question, but a good start would be to sign up for a good Kickboxing class, such as a decent Muay Thai school, train your butt off and see what comes you way in the form of tournaments etc... after you've put in a good deal of time training of course.
Too right, get in the gym - train & train ..........& train again, enter the tournaments, you'll find your way.
If there are no gyms in your area you will obviously need to travel to get to one. You cannot become an amateur kickboxer on your own. I am pretty sure there will be a club near you.
Yup train hard is the best way, but dont rush it. give it time, you might feel like you can hold your own after a few months but thats far from the case
Find the right teacher DO NOT, I repeat...DO NOT try to self train yourself in kickboxing. If you are serious, try some of the kickboxing organization websites and do a search for regional/state or country reps. Or, if you email them, they would probably be able to point you in the right direction... Best wishes...