Thank you all. Firstly apologies for the 'tripe-o's' above, that was the tablet late last night before going to sleep. I'm better on my beloved portable. However, I think you all understood what I meant to type matveimediaarts, I don't like the sparring, but, like most things that I do, I do tend to put my heart and soul into trying to do it correctly. As such maybe I do come over as somewhat 'focussed'. I don't think it helps that, lets say I am not a petite lady, there is 5'9" of me, and am not lightly built. If I spar with the very young kids I think I get on fine, the problem seems to be when my opponent are the chaps my age. Mitch, perhaps I don't understand how to play the game and what I am trying to achieve. I don't know how to score a point, what is legitimate as a target area and what is not, i.e. should I be just be using the moves and blocks that we do in basics and kata. Maybe I will ask next time. As it is on most occasions with the seniors I get light punches landed on me, have my foot caught to prove they could tip me over (and sometimes do go over), get forced back with no idea of a plausible response, they are faster and more agile than me, and I guess it is frustrating. Don't get me wrong, they are 'nice' about it and I don't get hurt, there are smiles and bows and glove taps before and after the 'spar', but they then tell me I am being too aggressive, and I think "me? There isn't an aggressive bone in me". I don't agree with them, BUT I can't deny that there is something going on when this is about the 4th time its been mentioned and by different people. I am desperate that I don't want to be doing something wrong, I don't want people to not want to partner with me, but I don't seem to be projecting the correct approach to the sparring and I don't know why, and how to correct this without becoming so passive that I lose all ability to stand a chance of scoring points. I have tried standing back, but I just get strikes on me even more often. At the moment it just seems a lose, lose situation. If I am more passive and defensive all I get is hit, if I try to do my part and I am told to lose the aggression or I'll hurt someone (and then it is pointed out that I have connected too hard in the past :-( which makes me feel even worse) and is something I have NEVER intentionally done. I am def. Frustrated and a little upset that I seem to be getting it so wrong. Sorry to vent, but I am at the stage when I cringe whenever we are told to put the gloves on.