Hi ya'll, I was thinking real deep about something that my FH told me to do if i didn't what to get into an arguement. Which is this : to disagree is to agree But i feel like thats somewhat lying. My FH is super huge on the lying thing. He feels totally fine doing this but im starting to think that this is kinda lying & im not really liking the idea that he does this on a daily bases somewhat. Then if its what i think it is. Then there would be a trust issue which i don't want that to start forming. & have these issues before we get married!!! What do u ya'll think??? TIA Lu
Agreeing to disagree is like saying "we're not going to agree on this so let's not fight about it." I don't see it as lying, though. Lying would be pretending to agree on something while secretly hating your FH for his opinions on the matter, or vice versa.
You have to do the maths. Is winning the argument worth the potential damage that the argument will cause to the relationship? If the answer is yes, then it is either a really important argument or a really crappy relationship.
I like to argue so I rarely "agree to disagree". But in my mind arguing should be a constructive way to prove some point you are trying to make... It shouldn't be a "fight"... At the end, if you cannot change someones mind by giving strong arguments, you should learn to accept it... Otherwise that could be an issue in a future relationship...