I live in America. We have minorities/women always speaking out against being treated unfairly all the time in the professional and personal realms of everyday living. I'm married to a black/hispanic woman who is in grad school for a pretty prestigious profession, all her cousins and sister whom she lives with is also doing great things with their lives. I get exposed to the "being hispanic" and "being a woman" in America problems quite a bit, but I'm not particularly educated on it, just exposed to it . . . . a lot. There are a couple things I'm struggling with and it causes quite a few arguments with the wife. I feel like it's hard being a white male in America, who doesn't come from money and just has a backround in working hard and making his own. I don't have all sorts of opportunities provided to me and I feel like I have to work hard to get mine. So sometimes, because I haven't had one thing handed to me in my life yet, I get fed up with the "I'm a minority" or "I'm a woman" and that they need special help to get somewhere. That said, I understand entirely the reasons why women or minorities have to organize in order to recieve opportunities that are often harder for them to get. But I can't get by the way it offends me. So I've been thinking it over and I think that I have come to a conclusion about how I feel about the whole minority and special benefits granted to them. I want to express this and see if it is sound, and I think doing it to an audiance that's going to have a lot of variety in it will help me adjust it if I'm screwed up. So this is it: I am mad at two sides. I'm mad at the people who are racist/sexist that have caused minorities and women to have to speak out in order to get their foot in the door. To me they are the responsible ones for the situation in it's fullness. Because of their bias and prejudice minorities and women now have to speak out, seperating themselves from what I see as "just being a person" and because they have to do that, because they are no longer a person, but hispanic, black, asian, a woman, etc, I am offended by it because it seperates me from them, making me a caucasion male instead of "just a person." I'm also upset that because I hold the view that we are "people," that because of the world I'm in and the problems we have, I'm not offorded any extra opportunities and I just "have them" because I'm a white male, when really I don't have all that much. So although I'm offended with the approach of minorities/women to get special benefits/regulations in their favor, I understand them entirely, I just wish it didn't have to be that way. What I can't understand is the bias and prejudice by those who are already ahead and make it harder for minorities/women to get their foot in the door. I have absolutely no solution to the problem, and the current situation is all I can see continuing for the time being. Is this outlook one of an idiot or does it hold some merrit?